The decision to end your marriage will be a difficult one to make, but
perhaps not as tricky as deciding
how to end it.
Divorcing through traditional methods and litigation is typical yet
mediation can also be extremely useful in many situations. What can you do to decide
which method is right for you and your soon-to-be ex-spouse?
When Divorcing With Mediation Might Work
The underlying concept of mediation is cooperation. Two divorcing spouses
work together to reach a divorce agreement that works for them both, all
the while letting a mediator oversee and guide them. The benefits of mediation
include getting a more customized divorce agreement, avoiding frustrating
arguments and legal battles, and usually reduced expenditures, especially
when it comes to court costs. Children are also generally more comfortable
with a divorce if it is pursued through mediation.
You should consider mediation when you and your spouse are on talking terms. Since mediation needs cooperation, you have to have good communication
with your spouse to make it work. If you cannot sit down and have a civil
discussion with your spouse, or if it is unsafe to do so due to possibility
of there being
domestic violence, then mediation is not the right choice.
When Traditional Divorce Works Best
Since mediation relies on coordination and communication, a traditional
divorce becomes optimal, if not necessary, when you and your spouse cannot
get along. Some people may feel compelled to agree with their spouse,
no matter how much harm that causes to their future and wellbeing, just
to avoid conflict. This is not ideal. If your spouse is refusing to compromise
or hear about your best interests, using divorce litigation will probably
be the right decision.
contested divorce to the courtroom is also not inherently a negative occurrence. Approaching
the situation correctly and with an attorney’s guidance can still
ensure you get what you want out of your divorce.
You can depend on the Murrieta and Temecula divorce lawyers from Hanson,
Gorian, Bradford & Hanich to help guide you through the dissolution
of your marriage. By sitting down with you and taking the time to learn
about your unique situation, we help you decide if you want to use divorce
litigation or mediation. We can even provide representation in or out
of court as you wish and as is necessary.
Contact us today to learn more about our services and your legal options.